The Most Important Conversation You’ll Have Today Is The One You Have With Yourself
Stop Asking The Universe For Favours & Start Sending Her A Better Signal By Asking Yourself This Question
“Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday” Dale Carnegie
Most people wake up in the morning and hand over their power.
We hand it over to our devices, the news, to the reality currently playing out in front of us. We allow the outside world to dictate how we are going to feel.
We worry about the day ahead of us, predicting the worst outcome.
We all worry.
But worry it a type of concession. We succumb to it.
We relinquish our power to it.
“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” Corrie ten Boom
Most of this happens before we’ve even put our feet on the floor.
The algorithm decides for us: we become a passenger rather than the driver of our lives.
We don’t have to let the algorithm decide for us though. We can opt out.
Yes, we have to face reality. We have to go to work, we have to tend to our families and our health; we have deadlines, duties and responsibilities.
But we also have a few moments, just before we get out of bed, to choose how the course of our day will flow.
We can lean into worry, or we can choose to embrace our own innate power and take the reins.
By asking ourselves one simple question:
What energy will I create and greet the world with today?
Notice the words “I” and “create” in that question .
It assumes that you (I) are/am the creator of your life. By default, it puts you in a position of power, not one of weakness that worry brings.
But power.
Don’t we all want more power in our own lives?
Aren’t we all tired of being controlled by outside forces?
The energy you greet the day with creates the day you will experience.
It’s why two people can go to the exact same event and have very different experiences of that event.
Putting yourself in the creator seat shifts your mindset from prey to hunter.
Thinking: “I’ll relax once this meeting is over” or “I’ll be fine if traffic isn’t bad” is handing over your power to that meeting or the traffic.
Instead, shift the power dynamics by deciding what kind of energy you will bring to your day.
Ask yourself that question and then answer with:
Today I choose confidence
Today I choose ease
Today I choose calmness
Today I choose fun
Today I choose flow
After each declaration, take a few moments to feel those emotions. Feel the feeling of confidence, then ease, the calmness, then fun, then flow.
It’s not magic or wishful thinking.
It’s energy and it’s power.
Your energy and your power.
You don’t have to wait for the world to tell you how to feel.
You can decide for yourself and greet the world from your position of power.
The obstacles and the demands of your day may not go away (although they may), but the energy with which you greet them will drain their power over you.
Imagining going into that meeting you worried about yesterday, but today you walk in with the confidence you summoned. We all know confidence when we see it. We all respond to the confident person differently than we do to the meek person.
YOU get to the source of your own happiness.
YOU get to decide what will or will not disrupt your peace.
YOU have the power to change the atmosphere of any room you walk into, even that meeting room.
Personally, I’ve always hated performance reviews. I used to walk in to them feeling small, like I was about to get my wrist slapped, even when I knew I did a good job.
But that was before I knew about my own personal power and the energy I can summon to create my day.
Now I can walk into those meetings with a smile on my face, with an aura of confidence. Get my wrists slapped? Pffttt!!! Now I ask for evidence of my shortcomings. I made a spelling error in one of my emails and suddenly my grammar needs work? Really?
That actually happened to me. It was the reaon my manager at the time told me I couldn’t have a bigger rise than was possible.
My grammar had lowered my overall score.
And because I felt confident enough to ask for evidence, she knew it was flimsy.
One email.
That was her evidence.
Suddenly she became small and uncomfortable.
I left that performance review with her saying “Let me see what I can do about that pay increase”
“Great. When do you think you can get back to me?”
“Probably tomorrow.”
“Okay, I’ll drop by tomorrow.”
And you know what?
I got that extra pay increase.
I turned the tables on that meeting because I took control of my energy before I walked into that room.
The wrist slap still happened.
But how I responded to it changed the outcome.
The world doesn’t just reflect outside events to you, it reflects what you bring to it. You’re a player in this world too.
Time to step up and start acting like it.
Don’t let the world tell you how to react to it; decide who you are going to be and how you’re going to show up in the world today.
It’s an internal job that makes all the difference.
And the world needs your shining light.
Yes, YOU.
