We’ve all got annoying people in our lives. Sometimes it’s a co-worker, a neighbour or a family member.
I bet you can add other people to that list:
That parent who’s yelling at their kid.
That referee who you swear must be blind!
That guy on the news who seems to be constantly lying to you.
We don’t have to know someone to judge them.
We like to put labels on people to try and feel superior to them: an act of moral righteousness.
We all do it. Present company included.
But our judgement of others is hurting ourselves. It’s blocking the flow of good manifestations into our lives.
How?
Judgement is an inner job. What you judge in someone, others may have patience or compassion for.
You may see that parent yelling at their kid and think “What a bad parent!” Whereas someone else might see that parent and think “They probably have a lot on their plate. I know I’ve been there before.”
Sure, you may well find agreement within your close circle, but our vibe attracts our tribe, so that’s not surprising.
Still, our own personal judgements are a reflection of our internal state. We see the world through our own specific lens.
“When you judge others, you don’t define them. You define yourself.” Wayne Dyer
What we feel about ourselves, we tend to find in others.
If we believe we aren’t good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, capable enough or patient enough. the Universe sends us experiences of those things:
“Here are some of examples of not good enough; not smart enough; not pretty enough; not capable enough, not patient enough” The Universe
I’ve got someone in my life who I’ve got a terrible habit of judging, but I know, deep down, that what I can’t tolerate in them, is a reflection of what I believe about myself.
It’s a hard pill to swallow, and something I’m working on.
How?
By stopping and reminding myself that I can choose compassion instead.
That I can choose patience.
That I can choose to see things from their perspective.
That I can just walk away from the situation.
It’s easy to judge annoying actions of others, and sometimes we even judge their accomplishments.
If you judge someone who is abundant, then how will you ever be abundant?
If you judge someone who is stunningly beautiful, then how will you ever be stunningly beautiful?
If you judge someone who is successful, then how will you ever be successful?
Your judgement of these people is the very thing that is pushing away what you want in your own life.
Because you don’t believe it’s possible for you.
So, the Universe says:
“Okay, we’ll delay that delivery of abundance, beauty and success, but here’s more of what you do believe you deserve”
Aaaaandddd…..here come the annoying people.
And there go your dreams.
Judgement is a hard habit to get out of; one that may take years.
But once you start believing you deserve better than what you are experiencing, your experiences will start to change.
Those annoying people won’t annoy you anymore, or they’ll disappear off your radar entirely.
We’re all a work in progress; I know I’m trying.
I hope you will too.
But I won’t judge you if you don’t.
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